Secrets to Life

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secrets to life

After helping scores of people find sustained joy and peace over the last few decades, we thought we’d summarize a few key concepts that will bring you what you want.  No kidding.  These are million dollar truths.  It’s worth paying someone to learn how to apply these concepts in real life:

1.    Live from gratitude.  There will always be disappointments because we make up what we think will make us happy, and when life doesn’t meet those expectations, we have set ourselves up to feel bad.  This does not mean you shouldn’t have goals or wants.  It does mean you don’t let your happiness depend on achieving those wants.  It’s fun to want, and fun to achieve, but prolonged happiness is not related to either of them.

Always focus on what you have, not what you don’t have. Result:  consistent and sustained joy.Reject all complaining.

Complaining is giving attention to what other people are not doing that you want them to do, or what they are doing that you don’t want them to do.  Have you noticed that complaining doesn’t change others?  You must notice this in order to stop your self-sabotaging.  Since we get more of what we focus on by continually trying to change what you don’t like in others, you sentence yourself to seeing a constant display of it. You must learn that others do not have to behave the way you want in order for you to be happy.  Focus on creating the life you want for you, regardless of what others are doing.  This is much more satisfying.
    2.     Reject all complaining.  Complaining is giving attention to what other people are not doing that you want them to do, or what they are doing that you don’t want them to do.  Have you noticed that complaining doesn’t change others?  You must notice this in order to stop your self-sabotaging.  Since we get more of what we focus on by continually trying to change what you don’t like in others, you sentence yourself to seeing a constant display of it. You must learn that others do not have to behave the way you want in order for you to be happy.  Focus on creating the life you want for you, regardless of what others are doing.  This is much more satisfying.
    3.     Short cut:  Learn as quickly as you can that money does not bring happiness.  Many people waste their entire lives operating under the belief that if they just get enough money, their stress and problems will go away.  There’s nothing wrong with having money, yet it seems that rich people are the only ones that have learned more money does not solve their life’s problems. Notice how rich people always want more.  This should be a tip-off to you that “more” is never enough. If you can learn this before you get rich, you’ll save yourself a lot of time in creating your joy.
    4.     Peace and Joy are different sides of the same coin.  Joy is Peace dancing; Peace is Joy resting.  Everyone is seeking peace, even if they are not consciously aware of it.  We want to feel safe. We want to stop suffering.  We want to relax and not worry.  This is what Peace is.  Seek Joy and you will find Peace.  Seek Peace and you will find Joy.
    5.     Worry and Guilt are as useless as complaining.  People think if they worry, it will help them avoid feeling bad in the future.  This is a fallacy. Instead, all it does is guarantee they feel bad now.  Many people feel guilt will serve as adequate self-punishment for hurting others or insure we won’t do something hurtful again, but it does not correct a wrong, and is an inefficient way to try to influence the future.  It’s just the ego’s way of getting us to feel bad in the present.
Instead, change worry to concern and take action as needed.  If there is nothing you can do, realize worry will not help anything, and let go.
Change guilt to an appreciation of learning a lesson, and let yourself feel good in the present about your growth.  This is what will help you do better in the future while feeling better now.
May your lives be filled with Joy and Peace, and may you have the wealth money can’t buy.

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